Scared people will do anything. There’s no strategy. No calculated move. Nothing. All that matters is the moment at hand, their fear and how they can escape. Scared people don’t think, they react. Scared people operate in a chasm of fear — ripping through their life’s journey and causing a rift between reality and destiny. Halting progress, if not stopping it all together. Darkening futures because your light (focus) is solely on the present. Incubating ignorance because we often fear what we don’t know. And to willingly function in fear can paralyze your thinking; thus, impeding your movement towards information, enlightenment and confidence.

“Please don’t hurt me.”

There is a correlation between that phrase and those who have blatantly hurt me with malice and indifference (which is the opposite of love – not ‘hate’). Whenever someone has led with that phrase, they have later proven to embody the exact thing they didn’t want done.

It’s actually comical — the times I’ve had friends, relatives, co-workers say, “You better not hurt her” or “you better take care of her” as if the pain-causing acumen is solely within my reach. Those aforementioned phrases serve as an omen that this is the individual who will actually end up administering pain rather than receiving it.

“God protect us.”

We are all capable and guilty of causing pain to someone – intentionally or inadvertently. It happens; especially when conflicting agendas collide and even moreso when we operate out of fear. We are so scared about what has happened or “could” happen to us that we negate the fact that our actions could potentially hurt someone else.

You hurt her when you force her to pay the fines of someone else’s transgression. You hurt him when his niceness is so refreshingly unfamiliar that you’d rather “end it now before anyone gets hurt” and fizzle your future happiness. When we wait for the bad to happen…it happens. Being cynical and expecting the worst is NOT discernment – it’s pessimism. Trusting God to protect us, praying about our interactions and our intentions (the ones we actually control) can at least offer a balance of healthy cautiousness and sober optimism.

God did not give us the spirit of fear.

Operating in it = not operating in Him.